Hold on to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers

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Children take their lead from their friends- being 'cool? matters more than anything else. Shaping values, identity and codes of behaviour, peer groups are often far more influential than parents.But this situation is far from natural, and it can be dangerous - it undermines family cohesion, interferes with healthy development, and fosters a hostile and sexualized youth culture. Children end up becoming conformist, anxious and alienated.In Hold on to Your Kids, acclaimed physician and bestselling author Gabor Mate joins forces with Gordon Neufeld, a psychologist with a reputation for penetrating to the heart of complex parenting. Together they pinpoint the causes of this breakdown and offer practical advice on how to 'reattach? to sons and daughters, establish the hierarchy at home, make children feel safe and understood, and earn back your children's loyalty and love. This updated edition also addresses the unprecedented parenting challenges posed by the rise of digital devices and social media.By helping to reawaken our instincts, Mate and Neufeld empower parents to be what nature intended- a true source of contact, security and warmth for their children.Children take their lead from their friends- being 'cool? matters more than anything else. Shaping values, identity and codes of behaviour, peer groups are often far more influential than parents.But this situation is far from natural, and it can be dangerous - it undermines family cohesion, interferes with healthy development, and fosters a hostile and sexualized youth culture. Children end up becoming conformist, anxious and alienated.In Hold on to Your Kids, acclaimed physician and bestselling author Gabor Mate joins forces with Gordon Neufeld, a psychologist with a reputation for penetrating to the heart of complex parenting. Together they pinpoint the causes of this breakdown and offer practical advice on how to 'reattach? to sons and daughters, establish the hierarchy at home, make children feel safe and understood, and earn back your children's loyalty and love. This updated edition also addresses the unprecedented parenting challenges posed by the rise of digital devices and social media.By helping to reawaken our instincts, Mate and Neufeld empower parents to be what nature intended- a true source of contact, security and warmth for their children.
Gabor Mate (Author) Dr Gabor Mate is a physician who specializes in neurology, psychiatry and psychology. He works with patients challenged by drug addiction and mental illness, and has over 20 years of family practice and palliative care experience. A renowned speaker, Dr Mate is highly sought after for his expertise on addiction, stress and childhood development. He is adjunct professor in the Faculty of Criminology, Simon Fraser University, and the co-founder of Compassion for Addiction. He has received the Hubert Evans Non-Fiction Prize; an Honorary Degree from the University of Northern British Columbia; and the Martin Luther King Humanitarian Award. His bestselling books, published internationally in 20 languages, include In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, When the Body Says No, Scattered Minds and (with Gordon Neufeld) Hold on to Your Kids.drgabormate.com / @drmateGordon Neufeld (Author) Gordon Neufeld PhD, is a Vancouver-basedclinical psychologist, internationally renowned as a foremost authority on child development. His Neufeld Institute delivers many courses he has created for parents, educators, and helping professionals on several continents. He is recognized for his unique ability to unlock the clues to seemingly complex problems of child rearing and education.